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One of My Favorite Day Game Tactics
Posted by: | CommentsToday I want to talk about a day game strategy that I use with phenomenal success.
This is an attraction and comfort building method that you can use all the time to bring women into your life, and is amazing for meeting beautiful women and creating almost instant dates…with little chance of flaking.
Let’s call this the “Coffee shop - Art Show” quickstep routine.
And it is all about leading, which requires having a plan. An agenda. And providing adventures that are unique and memorable to her. Best of all this whole act is CHEAP. Practically free. When I do this, the only expenses are usually a cup of coffee at the coffee shop.
This tactic works best on Thursdays.
This is because most galleries will have the premier opening for their new show on a Thursday. Sometimes it is Friday. But very often it is Thursday that they have the “premier- meet the artist” style opening.
Assuming that you live in a city with over a few thousand people in it, you most likely have at least a handful of art galleries, as well as some sort of free publication with a calendar that says when the galleries are having opening receptions.
You should be paying close attention to these magazines or newspapers because they will provide you with a constant stream of events that you can stay knowledgeable of so that you will always be able to arrange a date on the spot, because you already have plans.
This is bringing the girl into your reality. It is leading her. Letting her tag along.
So if you know of at least one of these art openings, you can already “have a plan” for what you’re doing later that evening. This makes it super easy to create same day hookups when you approach girls at the café. Or wherever.
I like to go for a coffee shop with a patio. You can do this at any day game type venue or subway car or whatever.
Basically, you approach the girl in the afternoon and chat her up as you would anywhere else. As in all day game scenarios, her defenses are down, she is most likely alone, and extremely receptive to a cool guy like you who would like to meet her.
Don’t be fooled by the book or laptop computer.
If she were against the idea of being approached by a guy she would be studying at home. This used to throw me off a lot. I would use that as an excuse: “Oh I can’t go talk to her, she’s working on something.”…BULLSHIT. She is studying at a public venue because like all humans, she craves social interaction and has ulterior motives. She would be in a library or at home if she were desperately focused on her schoolwork or whatever. You can approach girls at libraries too! They want to meet interesting new people and are putting themselves on display out at a trendy café because they hope to attract a cool guy.
I like to use an opener like:
“Hi! Mind if I interrupt your diligent studies? I saw you looking all scholarly and adorable and thought perhaps you need to be distracted for a moment…”
If shes studying, I’ll then have her “teach me something”. This gets the conversation rolling to a natural flow. From there I just talk to her like any normal human being. When I see that things are clearly going well, I will tell her that she should join me in just a few hours to an art show. This sounds exciting and fun to her so she almost always agrees. She gets dressed up all proper and lovely and I do as well. We then drink for free for two hours and build a connection.
Having this type of plan also makes it a lot easier to get the number.
Rather than having to just say “let me get your number”, you can say something like:
“You’re kinda magical…I think I like your style. Check it out, I was going to drop by the XY&Z Gallery around 7:30 for the XY&Z opening. (mention what the show is called and what it may be about or whatever) And you need to come with me. We need to go get our culture on so we can be refined young hipsters. Gimmee your number and ill call you around 7. You know where this place is right? Its over on (yadda yadda and dirka dirka street)…Sweet, I’ve got to go run a few errands beforehand, but I’ll see you then. Cheers.”
Sometimes I like to throw in an overly dashing kiss of the hand.
Notice how I invite her to something that I was going to do anyway, rather than “asking her out on a date”. I say all of this with the internal belief and assumption that of course she wants to go to an art opening with me. It wouldn’t occur to me that she would not want to go do something fairly exciting with me.
Girls love art, but rarely go to art shows. This is because they usually don’t have friends who are into that sort of thing. And when guys ask them out, it is usually to have dinner or drinks or some standard prototypical nonsense like that. Women romanticize art, galleries and art openings, yet rarely get the opportunity to go to these events.
And guess what? Now you are going out with her on a memorable date that involves absolutely no supplication, provides plenty of conversational material, a stage for you to present your personality, and FREE WINE. Art is emotional, passionate, and a hardcore aphrodisiac for women.
That’s right. You can get giggly drunk for FREE at art openings. You can drink the same amount of wine that would cost you over 40 bucks anywhere else- for absolutely nothing.
There is almost NEVER any kind of cover charge to get in. There is often music and lots of pretty people. And it is very standard for them to provide free glasses of wine and catered food.
So here you are standing out of the crowd by giving her a unique and posh experience that builds a lot of comfort and allows you two to stroll around, talking, drinking, and getting to know one another. Touching, flirting, teasing, role playing and kino escalating, of course. NICE.
Most of the time, these things are over by 9pm, so it will usually be only natural that you two will choose to continue the adventure over at a lounge, bar, or whatever.
You just met this girl like 4 hours ago. There was, say a 2 hour time bridge in between the initial meet and the re-meet for the gallery show, so you have really only been together for around 2 hours. Yet, you already have built massive attraction and rapport, she thinks you’re unique and interesting, and you have changed venues 3 times, and changed outfits too.
You create the illusion that you two have spent a lot more time with one another than you have.
You have also, without spending a dime, have managed to project that you are a classy, sophisticated and fun guy. If you have been kino escalating, and displaying your natural personality, you should easily be kissing the girl by 9:30.
This plan is amazing because it is a cool instant date that is outside the box of normal “hey we should get a drink sometime”. There is very little chance that she will flake.
I have never had a flake doing this. I have also never done this and not had it lead to sweet-magic-glory. You are leading the whole time. Just having fun.
Just being yourself.
As an inevitable result, she will be relaxed and have fun.
She will get to know you. There are no distractions. You don’t have to deal with her friends. There are no AMOG players at art shows who are going to try to steal your woman. This is a great way to spend a concentrated few hours with a woman, show her a good time, and create a history together.
Cool thing is that these free papers with the gallery listings are usually AT the coffee shop. It is best if you check it out earlier in the week and have an agenda. There is something going on every week that you can do.
Knowing what the plan is drastically increases the effectiveness of getting her out.
Take a minute to Google the artist. See what’s going on. These local papers are a plethora of second date or instant date opportunities if you just know what’s going on and invite beautiful women to join you.
Like a lot of the other guys who’ve become pioneers in this field of knowledge, I came to the seduction community having had a lifelong interest in philosophy, psychology and the dynamics of interpersonal communication. I always knew that reality could be created by those who wanted to, and those who didn’t would have to live subject and conform to the reality created by those who did. The few will always set the standards for the rest, and I decided early on that one could only try to understand how to come out on the winning end of this equation.
One memory stands out above all others as being the turning point in my desire to study this field of knowledge- to really understand persuasion and seduction. That was the time when I met a worthy adversary, Jamie Risner. I put her real name in here, in hopes that she may read this one day. Jamie was nothing less than the single most amazingly manipulative person I have ever met. She was the owner of a private behavioral modification boarding school. More or less a Black Op research experiment parading around as a school for defiant kids.
This was some B.F. Skinner/ Clockwork Orange shit.
You know the saying “You can’t bullshit a bullshitter”? She ran a whole school full of extremely talented bullshiters, and it was literally IMPOSSIBLE to get anything over on her. I remember being in awe of her- watching her work. Watching her perform. She could induce any emotion she wanted to in anybody at any time. She had an intuition that seemed supernatural and seemed to know every psychological warfare tactic in the book.
One day she came to me at random and could tell that I was keeping something from her. She knew that I knew something. And I did. I had a little piece of info in my brain, that if I let out, would seal my fate in that place for several months at least.
She was being too nice to me, modeling her posture and movements to a motherly comforting figure. Evoking feelings of love, fear, hatred, and trust all at the same time.
She was after something. This was her shtick and I knew it. She was working her “stuff” on me just like I had seen her do on so many other students.
I had seen her get inside people’s heads every day and completely break them down.
I knew that all I had to do was NOT give up that one tidbit of info, and I would be fine. That was it. I knew she would use everything within her power, employing all of her master manipulation tricks to get it out of me.
All I had to do was withhold that one little thing. Knowing full well that she had super persuasive wizard skills, It was a struggle, but I had to play. Perhaps I did look a bit smug, with such a beautiful piece of knowledge floating in my head. While she may have been able to tell that I had something on my mind…
I knew for a FACT that she didn’t know what it was.
Everything she said was said in a tone that was both comforting and commanding. It was maybe 15 minutes later that she was able to force that one bit of information out of my mouth.
So, I know that she is a highly skilled professional charlatan, who makes huge amounts of money by basically conning people, running this circus sideshow of a boarding school/ science experiment, brainwashing confused teenagers, and will stop at absolutely nothing to get what she wants out of anybody. I knew this.
I had resisted her mind games for months, so I knew that ALL I had to do was endure the conversation KNOWING that her objective was to lure me into a comfortable trusting state where I would tell her that thing that I had on my mind. And I’m thinking “JUST DON’T FALL FOR IT! Everything she says is Bullshit….she knows something is up and all you have to do is SAY ANYTHING EXCEPT THAT”
And within 15 minutes, I had buckled under her spell and it all came out.
I remember that moment vividly, where I was just forced to understand the reality of the situation. Where I was forced to acknowledge that for her to get me to say that, when I was consciously aware that I was dealing with such an amazingly manipulative person, took a level of skill and technique that I did NOT YET understand.
I literally remember thinking “Touché Jamie…Nicely fucking done.”
I was 16 at the time. This was a moment where I really came to see that some people possess the kind of knowledge that gives them the ability to influence anyone. I became absolutely fascinated with this talent. I wanted to know all about it. I watched her interact with parents and students as she performed what was absolutely nothing less than genuine fucking mind control.
I saw her do “memory implantation” with students, where she made people believe stories that she completely made up as actual events in their lives. She could incite more emotions in a glance than a thousand pickup routines.
I was in awe of her brilliance in social orchestration, and balls out insane ability to influence others. Whether it was just to get a piece of information, or to completely reprogram someone’s entire sense of identity, Jamie had SICK GAME.
I thought and still think that a lot of what she does is a semi-malicious way to line her pockets and feed her fat ego…but one thing is undeniable: She is goddamned good.
She was a demented genius, out there using these skills for fun and profit. I definitely saw the darker sides of manipulation and hypnotic persuasion, but became so interested in the psychology of what was all behind it and wanted to understand it.
I knew that you didn’t have to use these skills for psychic destruction- you could also use them to lead an interesting life, and incite fun and happiness into, and attract those around you into your life.
Since then it has been an profound area of interest, and I know understand that Jamie had simply been using basic NLP techniques. Most of what she did was quite “textbook”. However, at the time (10 years ago) it seemed so magical. And it was. It worked, flawlessly.
I studied her in action and saw her do some unbelievable things up close, including a few that can only be described as “real live brainwashing”.
I had always just thought of things this hardcore as being in the realm of science fiction. Well, this was where I saw firsthand that this stuff is for real. I was introduced to the concept that this sort of thing actually takes place. She was rearranging people.
The school was shut down (bought by a huge corporation and revamped completely) as a result of its reputation for practicing such bizarre psychological abuse, borderline torture, and basically being a modern day Stanford Prison Experiment.
The company who bought them out is an entire chain of “Behavioral Modification Schools” called Aspen. No doubt just a different cult of similarly disturbed sociopaths who have developed this into an industry.
It was certainly a unique experience that sparked my lifelong interest in the fine arts of persuasion. As soon as I got out of there, I began reading everything on the subject. For years I studied psychology and linguistics and began to look for everything I could find on these “weird mind control tactics”.
This led me to discover the body of knowledge on the science of persuasion and influence- guys like Kenrick Cleveland, and Dr. Robert Cialdini. I was also interested in learning all sorts of other neat things like cult induction, game theory and mass control.
Wouldn’t you know, one of the first things I read was KUBARK, the CIA Counterintelligence Interrogation Manual. This document, often referred to as “The Torture Manual”, was the governments tactical book on hardcore coercive psychological warfare. Written in 1963 and declassified in 1997- it is now freely available all over the internet.
All I could think when reading this was…“Wow…This is exactly what happened every single day, note for note. She was literally using the CIA’s psychic terror manual on us NOTE FOR FUCKING NOTE. On everybody.” It got me even more wildly interested, digging deeper and deeper.
While I believe she is a truly dangerous psychopath who has chosen to use these skills to abuse children for no particular reason-
While I completely denounce the use of persuasion and seduction to intentionally harm anyone…
I have to commend Jamie (J.J) Risner for inspiring me….perhaps influencing me…
to develop my interest, and my abilities. Nearly 10 years later, I just must give credit to where credit is due. She showed me a glimpse of the dark arts, and shook my reality as far as what i understand to be really possible. The way you can command and evoke so much emotion and influence, have that much power.
I ONLY recommend using these powers on consenting adults, in good taste and with class. Don’t be a ridiculous manipulative prick.
If she were to ever read this:
Haha! You can think of me as your protégé…haha look at your little hellspawn!
Except I’m the good version. I only want to infiltrate people’s minds to about bring joy. I’m all about the love. I am afraid my skills have far surpassed yours now ….and would LOVE to get the opportunity to go head to head with you again someday. It would be embarrassing.
Andy Warhol- Pop Artist/ Pickup Artist
Posted by: | CommentsIn the seduction rhetoric being schlepped around these days, you are always hearing about the “alpha male” and being “alpha”. And for good reason. But, I think we must not overlook the incredible charm of the clever beta male. What does Andy Warhol, a waifish, gay, seemingly confused pop artist have to do with seduction?
Well…Even though Andy Warhol may have actually died a virgin, he deserves a spot among the ranks of the all time greatest seducers who ever lived. Warhol illustrates a bizarre example of someone who was able to take an entire generation- entire culture by storm and have everyone absolutely mesmerized. Eating out of the palm of his hand. Begging for more.
Rarely ever putting together a coherent sentence in public, his mere presence made any place a noteworthy event. Models, actresses, aristocrats, socialites and celebrities came from all over to gather around him. People would do anything to win his favor.
The most pretentious and powerful people around would hastily cater to his whimsy, making him a rich and deeply influential cultural icon. Metaphorically, the New York City art world is the hottest three-set of solid tens, dressed to the nines at a party you can’t get into. Andy Warhol took all three home that night…and they lavished him with attention, prestige, and cash for the next 30 years.
It’s a peculiar case. On almost all accounts, he doesn’t display the typical traits of a charismatic…and certainly not an alpha male. Yet he was able to have such a mind blowing ability to seduce and hold influence on so many people for so long.
Andy Warhol illustrates a great example of coquettish behavior and personality that people find so alluring. He played heavily into people’s sense of vanity, making them feel like stars. Making them feel like celebrities, beautiful, interesting people…part of the “in” crowd, new avant garde. He then went on to actually make people into celebrities.
Perhaps he really was uninterested in sex, a voyeur by nature. He was purposefully vague and superficial. Unlike many people around him at the time, those in the scene he was the center of, Andy did not do drugs. Yet he maintains this general persona of one who is totally detached, spacey and existing entirely in his own reality.
He would answer questions with one word answers that had nothing to do with what was being asked. Entirely self amusing and putting the attention back on whoever he was with rather than himself.
This creates an enigmatic quality to him that people perceived as nearly divine, or supernatural. There is a lot to be learned about seduction from this weird little eccentric social genius.
